Set Out Your Top 25 Potential Partner Qualities
Beautiful people come in all shapes, colors and backgrounds, but when defining the characteristics of your ideal love match, there’s no such thing as being politically correct. This is the one place where having discriminating tastes is perfectly acceptable.
How you choose to live and with whom, is your choice.
There are many characteristics to consider when defining an ideal love mate. What ethnicity, race, religion, and background are best suited to you?
Perhaps you’ll agree, this world could use a lot more co-operation, religious tolerance, and respect for other people’s traditions.
Think about whether you could be happy living in an interracial marriage, multi-denominational family or cross-cultural partnership. It’s OK to decide that these are uncomfortable for you, but it isn’t OK to be wishy-washy up front, get with the wrong person, arid get very complicated later on.
Make a Top 25 List of Ideal Qualities
Make a list of the top 25 qualities you seek in an ideal love match. Most of us have been through enough broken relationships to know what we don’t want, but it is more valuable to know what we do want in a partner. The more specific you are, the easier it will be to read profiles and identify a likely match.
I recommend writing the Top 25 most important qualities in your dating Journal. If you need help, browse through the list below and rate each characteristic from 1-10 on a scale of importance and ignore the characteristics that are unimportant. Add your own values and criteria. It’s also helpful to write specific preferences or notes of your ideal for each.
This checklist will also help you to develop your own online profile. It will provide the foundation for crafting a profile that is irresistible to the kind of person you want to attract.
|Criteria||Rank (1-10)||In Top 25|
|Affluent (wealthy, successful, well-off)|
|Ambition (Goals, vision, direction)|
|Articulate (eloquent, loquacious)|
|Assertive (Takes a stand, defends)|
|Attentive (To others/to detail)|
|Attractive (Physical traits)|
|Authoritative (In control, speaks with authority)|
|Children (Wants, has, doesn’t want, living at home/away, grown)|
|Communication (Verbal, auditory, kinesthetic)|
|Courageous (Risk taking, adventure, fearlessness)|
|Creative Minded/Artistic Outdoorsy/Nature lover|
|Curious Nature (Interest In learning) Passionate|
|Diet (Meat/potatoes, balanced, vegan)|
|Education (Secondary, charitable, graduate, doctorate, volunteer)|
|Personality (Outgoing, quiet)|
|Energy Level (Stamina, endurance)|
|Race (Ethnic background)|
|Family Life (Devotion)|
|Financial Habits (Scrimper, saver, Responsible home, children, cars, spender)|
|Financial Security (Free-spirited, generosity)|
|Happy/Jovial Nature Sense of Style|
|Height Range Sensitivity (Empathy with others)|
|Honesty/Integrity Sensuality/Sex (Likes/dislikes!|
|Horoscope Sign frequency)|
|Humility/Modesty Shared Interests|
|Humor (Dry, sarcastic, banter, off Similar Political /Social views, off the wall)|
|Industrious (Hard-working, Sociable, social skills, grace, diligent, charm)|
|Intelligence Solutions Oriented|
|Interest in Parenting (Ability) Spiritual Practice/Tolerance|
|Interested in Others Sports (Spectator)|
|Sleep Habits (No of Hours, position, Nocturnal or Morning Person)|
|Strong Character (Leadership, Supportive, Listening Skills Tactfulness, Loyalty)|
|Traditional (Roles/values/habits, Nurturing/Loving|
After each date, review your checklist to see how they measure up and remind yourself before you get swept away and blinded by love (or lust even) or too quickly dismiss the person.